Parenting: Jenny Li

Weaning Woes

Jenny Li — Thu, 13 Nov 2025 22:12:48 +0000

I was not prepared for weaning to be this horrible. Last time I did it, I had pregnancy hormones to boost me up. I haven't been this depressed and anxious in a long time. My self-drive and motivation has essentially evaporated.

I started night weaning several weeks ago and didn't think it was affecting me. Now that I'm on a business trip and going cold turkey, I'm realizing that the night weaning is the likely culprit of the insane insomnia I've been experiencing the last few weeks, considering Sky was doing the bulk of their nursing 3-5x a night. And now that I've gone cold turkey, my bowels have collapsed and I feel like puking all the time, and I've been getting hot flashes! And that deep deep feeling of despair. Ugh.

The light at the end of the tunnel here is that perhaps I can start sleeping normally again in a few weeks, and my body will be mine again? One can only hope.

Feeling sad about the lack of diversity at my kid's school

Jenny Li — Wed, 15 Oct 2025 13:56:43 +0000

I just found out that Penelope's friend at school got made fun of for having curly hair, and it upset her so much that she cut off most of her hair.

Penelope and her friend are the only non-white kids at the school and it just sucks. It sucks that her friend's mom now has to decide whether or not to talk to the other kid's parents about it (because it always stems with the parents). And now she's burdened with spending her time doing mental gymnastics on the trade-offs and how to approach the whole thing. While the other parents are blissfully unaware of the situation.

It just pains me that not all families deliberately set a culture of inclusion at home. Doesn't even cross their minds!

And of course I'm feeling extra upset right now because I can't help but feel like my kid will be next.

What do you do when your kids won't wear weather appropriate clothes?

Jenny Li — Tue, 14 Oct 2025 17:47:25 +0000

I'm tired of fighting Penelope (my 4yo) on her clothing options for the day. It's getting cold in buffalo and shorts aren't an option when she spends most of the school day outside.

Do I force warm clothing on her or give her bodily autonomy to suffer the consequences of being dressed inappropriately? Note: I also don't want to suffer these consequences bc I assume she'll just get sick. And then everyone will get sick. Not really sure what the happy medium is here.